I was thinking about that book, The Secret. I’m still ambivalent about it. I started reading it when I moved into the Franklin and Cole apartment complex to live by myself for the first time in my life. And I was 36. I never finished the whole thing, but I read enough chapters to get the gist of it: VISUALIZING. I do believe people give out vibes, but to think that stuff will happen simply by thinking about it really, really hard, well, that’s another thing. So, even though I didn’t take the book too seriously, I decided to visualize. I had my friends visualizing for me and I visualized for them. I wasn’t in the best situation ever and I thought, what the hell, it’s not going to hurt to try, is it? Worst-case scenario I’ll stay right where I am. And what do you know? I saw positive changes starting to happen! I was like, hey, visualizing works! Then I realized, of course, that when you have a positive attitude towards life, your problems seem less overwhelming and it’s easier to find a solution. Like when you need to find a job but you’re so worried and depressed that you lay around on your sofa all day long with your computer off, and the newspaper’s classifieds section is nowhere to be seen. Obviously, and unless you got telepathic powers, a job is not going to magically fall on your lap while you’re wallowing in your own misery. It’s very hard to change how you feel about yourself, kind of like how you can’t chose who you fall in love with. However, there are things you can control, and once you identify what they are and you start focusing on them, that’s when positive changes will start to happen. It’s very difficult to find out what you have to work on to be happier, and even more difficult to make the changes once you find out. But it is worth it. Forgive yourself if you made progress and then screwed it all up (it took me four tries to give up smoking, but I eventually did over a year ago). Be kind to yourself. Be patient. You will make it.
- Love Story