Even though I’d have been happy leaving for home right after Saturday’s Basque monthly dinner, I surrendered to peer pressure and made it all the way to 1 am before putting my foot down at Roddy’s (by that time already sporting well-worn Old Navy flip-flops instead of the 3″ blue heels I’d chosen for the night). My girl friends continued on to Grainey’s before crashing at one of their apartments downtown, once the bars closed.
Early the following morning they start messing with me via text message:
“Hey, in bed with (my other girl friend)… is it considered cheating?”
Obviously they’re joking, as they’re both straight girls with boyfriends. Sometimes you have to share a bed when you crash at someone’s house and the number of rooms is limited. But I couldn’t help but thinking, “I don’t know, is it?”
What is cheating, anyway? Does it have to be physical to be considered cheating? Most people think so, plus the degree of physical contact needed for cheating varies depending on who you talk to. Some will tell you that they didn’t have sex with that woman and go on their married way to giving speeches all over the place, some agree that a kiss never hurt anybody, while others struggle with guilt if they stray just a bit within their own thoughts.
And what about sexting? Watching XXX movies? Is that cheating if your partner doesn’t know? Those activities are pretty safe in the sense that you only need a computer or cellphone and a certain amount of imagination. No physical contact whatsoever here. At least with another human being.
I’d love to hear what you guys think.
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