A Basque in Boise

Abuse

Domestic violence was always something I read on the news, saw on TV. Abuse only happened to women I didn’t know, until a couple of years ago.

One of my oldest friends called up on Skype one day and shook me up: after 20 years of marriage she was leaving her husband, right after he put a knife on her neck and threatened to kill her. I’ve known her forever, since I was 3 and she was 4. We grew up in the same town, went to the same school, hung out with the same group of friends, and got into trouble together. Never once in all of those years did I suspect, not even for one second, what she went through during her marriage. I bawled the whole way through the call while she calmly described what sounded like hell to me. Then I figured that was her reality for so long she’d become accustomed to it, plus she’d probably cried enough already when nobody saw her. I was so mad at the son-of-a-bitch, mad at her for not leaving him sooner, mad at myself for never picking up a sign.

Today, another friend told me she just got out of the hospital, where her ex-boyfriend sent her a few days back after beating her up. She’d told me before about the emotional abuse she was suffering and I remember begging her to please not put up with it. After what I’d heard from my other friend, I knew it wasn’t going to end right. And unfortunately, it didn’t.

These are two strong women, funny, intelligent, resourceful, pretty. Who the fuck do those men think they are? I hope they will lead a miserable life and die alone from a long, painful, agonizing and horrible death.

Bastards.

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Maria Jesusl Steven Roosevelt Diana Begoña Ainhoa aita NeskaBaska German Friend on the bench Mark Bieter

11 thoughts on “Abuse

  1. Maria Jesusl

    He puesto que me gusta, aclaro: Me gusta que lo denuncies, no me gustan esos indeseables que son lo peor, o sea, unos cobardes.

  2. Maria Jesusl

    He puesto que me gusta, aclaro: Me gusta que lo denuncies, no me gustan esos indeseables que son lo peor, o sea, unos cobardes.

  3. Steven Roosevelt

    Anecdotes: 1. My Dad told me that men do not hit women, ever. 2. My Mom told in conjunction with that talk that you have to sleep sometime, and that’s when the frying pan comes out if you are a woman hitter.

  4. Steven Roosevelt

    Anecdotes: 1. My Dad told me that men do not hit women, ever. 2. My Mom told in conjunction with that talk that you have to sleep sometime, and that’s when the frying pan comes out if you are a woman hitter.

  5. Henar Chico

    Ya, pero la cosa es que esos hombres no tienen huevos. Es mejor cortarles los brazos y arrancarles la lengua, en mi opinión.

  6. Henar Chico

    Ya, pero la cosa es que esos hombres no tienen huevos. Es mejor cortarles los brazos y arrancarles la lengua, en mi opinión.

  7. Mark Bieter

    Well done, Chico. I think it’s hard from the outside to understand why they stay under those circumstances, when it seems they should make a run for it. I hope they are able to make their situations better. In the mean time, they are lucky to have you.

  8. Mark Bieter

    Well done, Chico. I think it’s hard from the outside to understand why they stay under those circumstances, when it seems they should make a run for it. I hope they are able to make their situations better. In the mean time, they are lucky to have you.

  9. Henar Chico

    My friend from Ortuella is doing great, she never lost her sense of humor and she’s thoroughly enjoying her new life with her kids, her family, and her friends. I know my other friend will be fine too. Like I said, they’re both strong and smart women, with people around them that love them very much.

  10. Henar Chico

    My friend from Ortuella is doing great, she never lost her sense of humor and she’s thoroughly enjoying her new life with her kids, her family, and her friends. I know my other friend will be fine too. Like I said, they’re both strong and smart women, with people around them that love them very much.

  11. NeskaBaska

    It’s an entire culture of entitlement and favoritism towards males that ultimately leads to these attitudes. It’s the “boys will be boys” mentality that forgives and forgets these behaviors and ends up blaming the victim. But ultimately, it is women who raise boys who then become men. It all needs to start with mothers teaching their sons to respect women, and the whole world ending the special treatment of men. Guys, remember that having an extra piece of skin hanging between your legs does not make you special.

  12. NeskaBaska

    It’s an entire culture of entitlement and favoritism towards males that ultimately leads to these attitudes. It’s the “boys will be boys” mentality that forgives and forgets these behaviors and ends up blaming the victim. But ultimately, it is women who raise boys who then become men. It all needs to start with mothers teaching their sons to respect women, and the whole world ending the special treatment of men. Guys, remember that having an extra piece of skin hanging between your legs does not make you special.

  13. Henar Chico

    Yes, both men and women we have to come together to end domestic violence. There shouldn’t be room for abuse in a relationship.

  14. Henar Chico

    Yes, both men and women we have to come together to end domestic violence. There shouldn’t be room for abuse in a relationship.

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